Giving The Freedom To Live
Each of us, in life, walks on the special path that the
soul is destined to undertake. Our journeys are very different
and we progress at different rates. The pitfalls and blessings
we encounter are unique, yet we are all learning and no
one form of knowledge is more important than any other.
Even so, when we observe others, it can be easy to pass
judgment on their decisions and to assume their actions
will correspond with what we feel is right. But for every
problem, there are a multitude of solutions. Everyone makes
mistakes and, while watching others do so can be frustrating,
it is important that you accept each person's unique way
of doing things. Giving others the freedom to act in the
way they feel are best without the fear of harsh judgments
honors the capacity for growth that all people possess.
It is helpful to practice accepting others as they are.
Never judge the decisions of others based on the path you
would have taken because every person lives by different
values and experiences. Challenge is a universal concept,
but we all deal with difficulties in our own way. Give others
the space to fail, but don't harden your heart against their
experience. It isn't wise to try and fix people or control
situations. You may feel compelled to intervene when difficulties
arise, but it is important only to offer guidance when asked
unless the person is involved in a truly dangerous situation
or cannot act for themselves. Failure to choose the right
path or to make enlightened decisions is simply another
step on the journey. It is a means to experience and wisdom.
Letting go of the need to influence others does not discount
offering loving support and it does not mean that you need
to stop caring. It does mean stepping back, dissolving judgment,
and gracefully allowing others! to live their own destinies.
Giving others the freedom to blossom in their own journeys
gives you the freedom to take more notice of your own. You
may not condone the actions you see taking place, but your
reactions will be more loving by letting them be. And you
will be able to focus on just being yourself, confident
that the path you take is as right, valid, and special as
any other.
Love Waynonaha